Long distance relationships aren't always ideal relationships! In fact, they are really tough. They turn from tough to toughest with due course of time. In a long distance relationship, you could possibly be spending hours talking on the phone or chatting through screens. There are times when you want to hold the person close to you, hug them tight or just look at them because it would make you happy, but you just can't! Long distance relationships are for the brave ones.
The only thing that makes a long distance relationship work is communications. This kind of relationship is based on each other and nothing else. You learn to trust, you learn to accept, you learn to let go, you learn to forgive, you learn to never lose it, all of this and much more even if you are miles apart. Distance is a test of how far your love can stretch!
There may be times when giving up is the only option as things may go worse, but like they say, each time you want to give up, just remember why you started it. That's how long distance love is like. This is one of the most inharmonious forms of love but it does make you a better person. You learn to trust because you can't see the person in front of you all the time, you learn to sacrifice because someone is always up at odd hours to talk to the other person. And yes you learn to appreciate. Happiness of that person who may be miles and miles apart means so much but what really is beautiful about long distance love is that you learn to endure friendship, really!
Just know if a normal relationship on a scale of 1-10 needs 8 commitment, then long distance needs 18 on 10. It's not easy, it's just not easy to love selflessly. People turn different over the years, things change but if you want to make it work and if love still feels like magic, then don't let it go for you may never be able to unlock the fullness in life. I am not telling you it's going to be easy, I am telling you, It's going to be worth it!
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Read somewhere -
ReplyDelete"Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It's for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It's for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don't see it nearly enough!"
Also, seemed apt. Remember when I used to go home on vacations and it all used to screw up between me and her. Couldn't work out, but at least we tried, and that holds a good point.
I truly agree to this post! Long distance relationship is not only the test of love and endurance, it is the test of character. It is like real marriage where you have thousands of other options and choices to make, but you stick with this cause it is better to rediscovered than to start with someone else. You stay apart, but stay committed. Even if you don't see the person for months or even a year, you dedicate your life towards theirs, only for the hope of a better future. It is like the training period which gives the sense of ultimate fulfillment and appreciation when you actually get to stay together, feel each others warmth and look into their deep eyes.
ReplyDeleteYou mentioned the best of long distance relationships, valid points :)
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