#GuiltyConfessions: 5 Signs To Know Whether Its Love OR Lust

By divya

Boy meets a girl, falls in love and they live happily ever after. So says most of the fairy-tales and romantic movies. But then came the movie Fifty Shades of Grey and well we all know that it changed the whole dynamics of Love and Lust. In the real world when two people start dating, even the thought of meeting again can make them go weak in their knees. But later on it might end up into one chaotic mess.

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So how does one differentiate between Love and Lust especially since love often develops from infatuation? Love and Lust both involve intense feelings but they have different emotional and psychological components. Lust is great but it's not love. And the confusion between the two leads to all sorts of problems further down the road as you actually get to know someone.

Watch out for these simple 5 signs to know the difference :

1. Lust is about Physical appearance whereas Love is Deeper

Lust is a strong emotion to the other person's physical appearance. Whereas Love is a feeling, it's a sense of being.

2. Love is gradual whereas Lust is Fleeting

You may be attracted to someone the moment you meet them and you might start fantasizing about them in your head . But you don't really know what their personality might be like. The more you know them you might realise they repel you.

3. Love is about Connection Whereas Lust is about sparks

Lust happens when you get attracted to a someone sexually without even knowing them. It starts with a fire but fizzles out with time whereas Love is about getting to know one another and being each other's best friend.

4. Love is about intimacy whereas Lust about physical need

Love leads to need to be cuddled, having deep conversations , enjoying each other's company but Lust on the other hand is all about sexual gratification , without bothering about feelings or emotions.

5. Love is Expansive whereas Lust is Exclusive

Love makes you want to share your life with the other person, to give generously of all you have and make them the center of your universe. Lust on the other hand is about being self centred and Selfish. It makes you want to keep the person to yourself and aims at only satisfying self.

Neither Love or Lust can exist exclusively in any relationship. If a relationship has love but no lust it will be termed as friendship as there can be no relationship without sparks. If a relationship has only lust it's likely to be short lived and once the excitement is over the relationship runs its course.